How Do I Regain His Trust After I’ve Cheated?
June 29, 2010 by T Dub Jackson
Filed under Dating Tips
Restoring a severed trust after cheating could be the hardest thing to do in any relationships. Relationships that are built on solid rock are not really that strong. One day a spouse may find out how the rocks are being eaten by the seawater.
The severed trust is sadly the first result of cheating. After the discovery of an affair, a thorny life crisis develops not only to the betrayed one but also to the cheating spouse. A relationship without trust can shatter and might leave it severed forever. But trust can be regained before the once rose-colored glasses turns into grey.
Begin with a Single Step
It’s like anything else in life. You start earning the trust of others by volunteering information that may not be necessary to provide. Just knowing that you have volunteered the information will be a step in the right direction in some relationships.
Lying doesn’t have any room in the trust world. Be honest even if the whole world is not. No matter how easy it is to tell a lie, say the truth. Be honest about where you’ve been, what you’re doing, who are with you, how long will you be doing your thing, and so on and so forth because if you’re not you will end up gathering the remains of your sand castle..
Make the move to Bigger Things
The time and place issues are small steps in the right direction but if you’re willing to dig down really deep you can really begin to rebuild trust. How do you do this?
But the question is how willing are you in disclosing information and really plowing deep in order to rebuild trust again?
Again, it all starts with you. Honestly disclose any intimate relationship that you had in the past. It might be knotty but explain carefully the complexities in your past so that your partner can see who you really are. But remember that volunteering this kind of information can make you really vulnerable. It’s like exposing a wound to a doctor who can examine it anytime and the examination might hurt.
The man who really loves you will understand and accept your past however complicated it is. And if you really love him, you will reveal anything that will matter to the future of the relationship.
Why you want Him back
It’s one thing to offer flattery and use it to your advantage. It’s another thing entirely to come up with a load of baloney and try to sell it a a time like this. Give him the real reason. Combined with the other steps above it should be a winner for you.
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