A Jedi Mind Trick For Capturing Any Girl’s Interest

The collective male’s attempt at piquing a woman’s interest runs the gamut from demonstrating a lightning-quick wit and sharing interesting stories about himself to doing magic tricks like a clown out of Barnum & Bailey’s circus.

But more often than not, her eyes wander to her cell phone and then meander to the people behind him.

In fact, just about everything in her environment seems to enthrall her except for him, causing a billion and one insecurities to snake into his mind, such as…

1). She must think I am ugly as sin.

2). Does she find me as boring as Velveeta cheese?

3). Do I have the personality of a houseplant?

4). Did I forget to wear deodorant?

5). Is my ego going to be an obituary in tomorrow’s paper?

And if he’s bitter, he might think: She’s like a warm toilet seat – some guy was there before me, another will be there when I get up.

Like a hard working mule, he takes one last crack at making conversation.

But, alas, she stings him with, “It was nice meeting you but I have to go.”

In retrospect, he may think: Damn! That fall-asleep boring conversation piece took the pickup to a crippling halt. It was like the one unlucky drink that shoves a wavering alcoholic off the wagon. I should have never used it.

Most of us have experienced something along these lines.

Many of us have thought: If I only had more interesting things to say, do, or show women, my outcome with them would be completely different.

Although there may be a speck of truth here, most great orators, politicians, and salesmen will tell you, “The content of what you say is far less important than how you say it.”

I’ve seen comedians put an audience in stitches one night yet bomb the next. While the standup routine they used was exactly the same on both nights, their delivery was completely different.

For this reason…

You won’t learn any interesting conversation pieces, cute lines, or fall-on-the-floor-laughing jokes in this article.

Instead…

I’m going to teach you a communication secret that captivates women.

But before I go on, I want you to make me a promise (and, as you’ll see in a few minutes, this promise is for your own good)…

No matter how boring you think you are (even if you think you’re more boring than a 90 year old woman living in a nursing home), I want you to promise me that you won’t change the content of what you say to women for one week.

Here’s why…

I want you to see how adding just this simple secret to what you currently do and say when interacting with women can dramatically increase your success.

In school, you’re taught to finish a thought or idea before moving onto the next. Great advice if you want to plunge women into a narcoleptic stupor.

But if you want women to hang onto your every word, you need to break this crippling habit and start using nested loops.

A nested or open loop is when you start an idea, thought, or story, and instead of finishing it, you move onto something else. In other words, you keep the loop open.

Whenever the human mind is presented with an open loop – unfinished idea, thought, or story – it seeks closure.

Open loops are a form of what I call “tension loops” because they create unresolved emotional tension in a woman.

Even if a woman finds you as interesting and attractive as a sewer rat, the open loop unconsciously compel her to hang onto every word that pours out of your lips and emotionally drives her to see you as a valuable Prize.

Because she seeks resolution to the tension you’ve sparked in her mind and knows that you can release the tension, she perceives you as having value and heeds close attention to everything you say.

Imagine a slovenly bum and a high maintenance babe crossing paths. The bum makes a tragic try at conversation with her by saying, “Hello. My name is Jack and I am homeless. Let me tell you about how I became homeless.”

Chances are, she’d have no interest and scurry off because she finds him aesthetically repulsive, possibly scary, and of little value.

But if he fired an open loop at her, such as, “You know what they say about women with green eyes?” he would probably spark unresolved tension in her body. She’d feel a yen for emotional closure. Closure only he has the power to bring her.

And bada bing, bada boom…

This vagabond she normally would never give the time of day to piques her interest and has value (or Prizability) in her eyes.

Furthermore, open loops can build sexual arousal…

When you spark emotional tension within the context of flirting with a woman it becomes sexualized in her body.

But there’s a facet of open loops I haven’t mentioned yet…

It’s called the “Zeigarnik effect.”

One of the early contributors to Gestalt psychology Bluma Zeigarnik noticed that waiters remember orders up until they serve the food. Then they forget. This led to the discovery that the mind retains the most information when a loop is open.

How does this help you? A woman will probably remember everything you tell her between opening up a loop and closing it.

I want to share with you a powerful application of open loops I learned from watching politicians…

Oftentimes, when politicians are asked a question, they skirt around it for several minutes, talking about almost irrelevant topics, before directly addressing it. This keeps the listener in suspense.

How can we apply this to seduction and attraction?

Here’s an example…

When most men meet a woman they utter their name and then shake the woman’s hand. Usually that’s it. The interaction is over.

An hour – or even a few minutes – later she probably won’t remember his name or anything about him.

Instead, when a woman asks me my name I use an open loop.

I may say,

“When I was a kid my mom told me that she and my dad originally named me Arete, which means all the qualities that make up someone with good character.

And I said, ‘Wow, mom… that’s awesome! Why didn’t you keep the name?’

And she said, ‘Well honey, you’re lucky we didn’t name you Arete because it’s the name of a goddess from Greek mythology.

But we didn’t really give a crap about you having a female name.

The real reason we didn’t name you Arete was that our dog was named Arete – we really loved the name.

And on the day you were born our dog was hit by a car. When we looked at you, we didn’t want you to remind us of the dog. So we named you Josh instead.’”

In lieu of giving her the instant gratification of learning my name I’m using an open loop. This builds unresolved tension inside her body.

Her unconscious mind seeks to bring closure to this loop, inciting her to hang on to my every word.

Had I just told her my name from the get go, she might have judged, “This average looking guy probably lives a boring life,” and then moved onto another man.

But by using an open loop, I had an opportunity to demonstrate that I come from cultured people, have a sense of humor, tell great stories, and possess value (or Prizability).

Plus, due to the Zeigarnik effect, she will remember that I was the guy almost named Arete.

Josh Lubens, a dating expert, write under the pseudonym Swinggcat and has been teaching men how to attract women for the last decade. Visit his site if wanna get a world class education on how to attract women.

A Cautionary Tale On How Not To Attract Women

I want to share a personal tale that takes a lurid look at the collective male ego’s pathetic attempt to buoy above survival when trying to win over the woman of its dreams.

Thus far, I have shared this story only with a few close friends.

To be completely honest

I feel almost bashful sharing it with you.

Yet this story is so important to your development that I’m willing to swallow my pride a bit.

When I was fifteen I went to high school with a guy who claimed he was dating a teen model.

Not being the coolest cat in the litter box, he went out of his way to prove to everyone that he was “actually dating her”: he cut out pictures in magazines of her, and even made up stories about the two of them making monkey love.

Everyone mercilessly teased him, seeing through his transparent lies.

In a sad attempt at regaining the smattering of respect people had for him, he promised everyone that she would attend his birthday party.

I ended up going to his party just to prove to myself that this girl was a figment of his imagination.

Long story short, she was real and even more stunning in person. Her cold-as-ice personality sat behind an angelic face draped with blond locks and decorated with piercing green eyes. A skinny cigarette nestled between two of her long fingers. I was in love.

Birthday boy, however, was not “actually” dating her. In fact, she wanted nothing to do with him.

I ended up sleeping with her – that was the good news.

There was, however, a catch: She had a boyfriend.

She let me know that although she enjoyed fooling around with me, she would never break up with her boyfriend for me. This fret a wound deep within my heart.

Then she poured verbal rubbing alcohol on my open wound by telling me that I did not fit the quota for her “ideal man”.

Then she carped, “You don’t act romantic, buy me gifts, or listen to my problems. I refuse to be with a guy who doesn’t do these things.”

The feeling was worse than having your nether regions stretched like a foot of flesh colored taffy.

Did I run as fast as I could from this little ice princess?

No – instead, like a trained seal, I attempted to live up to her “be my little lapdog” standards.

Did I end up winning her heart?

Nope.

When I reached the brink of her high standards, she raised the bar.

Guess what?

I felt even more attracted to her and tried even harder.

The harder I tried, the less attraction she felt for me.

Don’t do what I did unless your sexual preference rhymes with May. Or you’re a masochist.

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Josh Lubens, a dating expert, writes under the pseudonym Swinggcat and has been teaching men seduction for the last decade. Visit his website to get world class seduction tips.

How To Approach A Woman

Have you ever wanted to talk to a girl but your mind went blank?

Not to worry.

We all have.

And it’s no fun.

On top of that, lots of women close up when they sense a male stranger is attracted to them.

Today I’m going to teach you a simple technique so you’ll never be at a loss for words again with a girl you’d like to meet.

It’s called the “Opinion Opener.”

Instead of letting a girl know you’re attracted to her, you’re gonna ask her an innocent question first.

Most women will be more than happy to give you input. Furthermore, they won’t suspect you’re hitting on them.

The Opinion Opener buys you a few minutes to figure them out before making your move.

But you don’t want to ask them just any old question.

Your question needs to be something emotionally relevant to women – think pop culture, pets, gossip, clothing, love triangles between celebrities, relationships… and so on.

One of my favorite opinion openers comes from the dating coach Swinggcat.

Here it is:

You: Hey girls, I want your opinion on something.

Girls: Go ahead.

You: My next door neighbor just got a baby boy pug dog and baby girl wiener dog. She wants to name them after an ’80s or ’90s pop duet or couple.

(Note: this may seem like a ridiculous question to ask women. But trust me – what was funny and interesting to you second grade is funny and interesting to them now.)

You’ve hooked them into a conversation. Now it’s time to playfully tease them.

Maybe say, as Swinggcat suggests, “Whoever comes up with the best names, gets a thousand dollars. If you give me a good name, fifty dollars has your name written all over it.”

The girls will beg, “That’s not fair. I want at least half.”

Maybe warn, “If you’re gonna act like a brat, you’re getting twenty five dollars.

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How to Flirt With Women — 3 Types of Flirting

When you flirt with a woman, there are three main ways to flirt.

You can take the initiative and just say something flirty.

Alternatively, you can appear to be much more spontaneous by waiting for her to say something that you are ready for, and then shooting back a flirty response that takes them by surprise.

Finally, if you’re really clever, you can set them up. Do something that will get them to respond in a way that will lead to a great flirting line that you already have prepared.

Here are some examples of each:

TAKING THE INITIATIVE: Call her a name jokingly. Look at her funny. Be a little cocky. Active flirting is fun, but it’s a little more risky early on in an encounter. It puts your intentions “out there”, so you have to be pretty sure of the situation to engage in proactive flirting.

TRIGGERED FLIRTING: Triggered flirting can be even better than proactive flirting, because it appears more spontaneous and less planned. For instance, suppose she brags about herself. You could say, “That’s impressive. You’ve just earned 5 more minutes with me.” Reactive flirting can signal that you’re quick witted and ingelligent. And, of course, it doesn’t actually have to be spontaneous. You might have dozens of responses ready for common things girls say or do. It just has to look spontaneous to be effective.

TWO-STEP FLIRTING: Suppose you have a line prepared for when a woman bends down to tie her shoe or pick something up off the floor. And suppose when she does that you plan to say “Oh, I don’t require people to bow down before me anymore”. But suppose she hasn’t bent down in front of you yet. You can wait and hope you have a chance to say your flirty line. Or you can set things up. How would you set things up so she bends down in front of you? Well you could secretly take something of hers off the table and put it on the floor, and when she notices and bends down to pick it up, then you could deliver your line.

So those are three ways to flirt. Did you find them interesting? All three methods are discussed in much more detail in the book “Flirting Deconstructed”.

Tyler Paxon Ph.D. is the founder of the How To Flirt website. Take his free quiz at http://how2flirt.com

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