Want Girls To Like You? Try These Three Ways

A lot of guy talk centers around women and how to make them like you. Face it, any bloke in his right frame would want to be the center of attention in a room full of women. Thinking about such a scene made me want to be the best I could around women. I now have a 2-year relationship with the perfect woman.

I’m certainly not the GQ good-looker, but there’s plenty to do to overcome that.

Lift your chin. Women go for personality over looks ninety-nine percent of the time. Ari Onassis landed Jackie O. He’s not really a handsome man. But he landed one of the world’s most charming and beautiful women. Take heart.

Don’t worry about something you can’t control, like genes. Get on top of those things you can control:

Build your self-confidence to turn women’s heads.

Self-confidence is a powerful aphrodisiac. If you can develop your strength in that area, you’re well on your way in love – and life! Self-confidence is not a mysterious, hardly attainable trait. You just need the faith in yourself to do things that you or others may be afraid to do, and you need to believe that you are right.

Don’t worry about it. Just do it. Start with small endeavors and build yourself up. Face life’s challenges. Deal with them and deal with them well. As you continue, your self-confidence will grow.

Life skills. Getting them will make girls like you.

Don’t just stand there! Do something! Figure out neat things to do. (They may be skills, perhaps. But computer hacking, bow-hunting, or winning a belching contest won’t get you very far with the girls.) Figure out some fundamental skills that will attract, even surprise, women, and then you’re building success.

You can really shine with if you can cook a great meal. Or if you know how to dance. Do you have an interesting hobby? Or perhaps there’s one you’d like to pick up. Paint, play the guitar. There are so many regular guys out there. Make yourself singular among them. Honing life skills, doing them well, will make you an object of affection.

Flirt! Yes, flirt! You can make girls like you by flirting.

It’s so important we even have a word for it alone – Flirt. Flirt as often as you can with as many as you can.

Flirting well is the key. Flirting is a delicate art form.

Flattery and not being too serious are the two main requirements regarding flirting.

Are you a caveman? You are if you holler at a girl and tell her she has a nice rear. Don’t ever do this. Such action is not flirting, it fails twice: 1) without knowing her, she’s not going to take it seriously, 2) it in no way makes her feel good about herself, she feels like a “thing”; and guys who do this are no good at flirting at all, they’re jerks.

With these three hints to guide you, you’ll get girls to like you no matter where you may find yourself. Within the boundaries of these guidelines, your personality will ooze forth and you’ll stand out in the crowd. Doing fine with women is basically being your old friendly fun-loving self, bolstered by self-confidence, having some life skills, and knowing how to flirt.

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A Jedi Mind Trick For Capturing Any Girl’s Interest

The collective male’s attempt at piquing a woman’s interest runs the gamut from demonstrating a lightning-quick wit and sharing interesting stories about himself to doing magic tricks like a clown out of Barnum & Bailey’s circus.

But more often than not, her eyes wander to her cell phone and then meander to the people behind him.

In fact, just about everything in her environment seems to enthrall her except for him, causing a billion and one insecurities to snake into his mind, such as…

1). She must think I am ugly as sin.

2). Does she find me as boring as Velveeta cheese?

3). Do I have the personality of a houseplant?

4). Did I forget to wear deodorant?

5). Is my ego going to be an obituary in tomorrow’s paper?

And if he’s bitter, he might think: She’s like a warm toilet seat – some guy was there before me, another will be there when I get up.

Like a hard working mule, he takes one last crack at making conversation.

But, alas, she stings him with, “It was nice meeting you but I have to go.”

In retrospect, he may think: Damn! That fall-asleep boring conversation piece took the pickup to a crippling halt. It was like the one unlucky drink that shoves a wavering alcoholic off the wagon. I should have never used it.

Most of us have experienced something along these lines.

Many of us have thought: If I only had more interesting things to say, do, or show women, my outcome with them would be completely different.

Although there may be a speck of truth here, most great orators, politicians, and salesmen will tell you, “The content of what you say is far less important than how you say it.”

I’ve seen comedians put an audience in stitches one night yet bomb the next. While the standup routine they used was exactly the same on both nights, their delivery was completely different.

For this reason…

You won’t learn any interesting conversation pieces, cute lines, or fall-on-the-floor-laughing jokes in this article.

Instead…

I’m going to teach you a communication secret that captivates women.

But before I go on, I want you to make me a promise (and, as you’ll see in a few minutes, this promise is for your own good)…

No matter how boring you think you are (even if you think you’re more boring than a 90 year old woman living in a nursing home), I want you to promise me that you won’t change the content of what you say to women for one week.

Here’s why…

I want you to see how adding just this simple secret to what you currently do and say when interacting with women can dramatically increase your success.

In school, you’re taught to finish a thought or idea before moving onto the next. Great advice if you want to plunge women into a narcoleptic stupor.

But if you want women to hang onto your every word, you need to break this crippling habit and start using nested loops.

A nested or open loop is when you start an idea, thought, or story, and instead of finishing it, you move onto something else. In other words, you keep the loop open.

Whenever the human mind is presented with an open loop – unfinished idea, thought, or story – it seeks closure.

Open loops are a form of what I call “tension loops” because they create unresolved emotional tension in a woman.

Even if a woman finds you as interesting and attractive as a sewer rat, the open loop unconsciously compel her to hang onto every word that pours out of your lips and emotionally drives her to see you as a valuable Prize.

Because she seeks resolution to the tension you’ve sparked in her mind and knows that you can release the tension, she perceives you as having value and heeds close attention to everything you say.

Imagine a slovenly bum and a high maintenance babe crossing paths. The bum makes a tragic try at conversation with her by saying, “Hello. My name is Jack and I am homeless. Let me tell you about how I became homeless.”

Chances are, she’d have no interest and scurry off because she finds him aesthetically repulsive, possibly scary, and of little value.

But if he fired an open loop at her, such as, “You know what they say about women with green eyes?” he would probably spark unresolved tension in her body. She’d feel a yen for emotional closure. Closure only he has the power to bring her.

And bada bing, bada boom…

This vagabond she normally would never give the time of day to piques her interest and has value (or Prizability) in her eyes.

Furthermore, open loops can build sexual arousal…

When you spark emotional tension within the context of flirting with a woman it becomes sexualized in her body.

But there’s a facet of open loops I haven’t mentioned yet…

It’s called the “Zeigarnik effect.”

One of the early contributors to Gestalt psychology Bluma Zeigarnik noticed that waiters remember orders up until they serve the food. Then they forget. This led to the discovery that the mind retains the most information when a loop is open.

How does this help you? A woman will probably remember everything you tell her between opening up a loop and closing it.

I want to share with you a powerful application of open loops I learned from watching politicians…

Oftentimes, when politicians are asked a question, they skirt around it for several minutes, talking about almost irrelevant topics, before directly addressing it. This keeps the listener in suspense.

How can we apply this to seduction and attraction?

Here’s an example…

When most men meet a woman they utter their name and then shake the woman’s hand. Usually that’s it. The interaction is over.

An hour – or even a few minutes – later she probably won’t remember his name or anything about him.

Instead, when a woman asks me my name I use an open loop.

I may say,

“When I was a kid my mom told me that she and my dad originally named me Arete, which means all the qualities that make up someone with good character.

And I said, ‘Wow, mom… that’s awesome! Why didn’t you keep the name?’

And she said, ‘Well honey, you’re lucky we didn’t name you Arete because it’s the name of a goddess from Greek mythology.

But we didn’t really give a crap about you having a female name.

The real reason we didn’t name you Arete was that our dog was named Arete – we really loved the name.

And on the day you were born our dog was hit by a car. When we looked at you, we didn’t want you to remind us of the dog. So we named you Josh instead.’”

In lieu of giving her the instant gratification of learning my name I’m using an open loop. This builds unresolved tension inside her body.

Her unconscious mind seeks to bring closure to this loop, inciting her to hang on to my every word.

Had I just told her my name from the get go, she might have judged, “This average looking guy probably lives a boring life,” and then moved onto another man.

But by using an open loop, I had an opportunity to demonstrate that I come from cultured people, have a sense of humor, tell great stories, and possess value (or Prizability).

Plus, due to the Zeigarnik effect, she will remember that I was the guy almost named Arete.

Josh Lubens, a dating expert, write under the pseudonym Swinggcat and has been teaching men how to attract women for the last decade. Visit his site if wanna get a world class education on how to attract women.

A Cautionary Tale On How Not To Attract Women

I want to share a personal tale that takes a lurid look at the collective male ego’s pathetic attempt to buoy above survival when trying to win over the woman of its dreams.

Thus far, I have shared this story only with a few close friends.

To be completely honest

I feel almost bashful sharing it with you.

Yet this story is so important to your development that I’m willing to swallow my pride a bit.

When I was fifteen I went to high school with a guy who claimed he was dating a teen model.

Not being the coolest cat in the litter box, he went out of his way to prove to everyone that he was “actually dating her”: he cut out pictures in magazines of her, and even made up stories about the two of them making monkey love.

Everyone mercilessly teased him, seeing through his transparent lies.

In a sad attempt at regaining the smattering of respect people had for him, he promised everyone that she would attend his birthday party.

I ended up going to his party just to prove to myself that this girl was a figment of his imagination.

Long story short, she was real and even more stunning in person. Her cold-as-ice personality sat behind an angelic face draped with blond locks and decorated with piercing green eyes. A skinny cigarette nestled between two of her long fingers. I was in love.

Birthday boy, however, was not “actually” dating her. In fact, she wanted nothing to do with him.

I ended up sleeping with her – that was the good news.

There was, however, a catch: She had a boyfriend.

She let me know that although she enjoyed fooling around with me, she would never break up with her boyfriend for me. This fret a wound deep within my heart.

Then she poured verbal rubbing alcohol on my open wound by telling me that I did not fit the quota for her “ideal man”.

Then she carped, “You don’t act romantic, buy me gifts, or listen to my problems. I refuse to be with a guy who doesn’t do these things.”

The feeling was worse than having your nether regions stretched like a foot of flesh colored taffy.

Did I run as fast as I could from this little ice princess?

No – instead, like a trained seal, I attempted to live up to her “be my little lapdog” standards.

Did I end up winning her heart?

Nope.

When I reached the brink of her high standards, she raised the bar.

Guess what?

I felt even more attracted to her and tried even harder.

The harder I tried, the less attraction she felt for me.

Don’t do what I did unless your sexual preference rhymes with May. Or you’re a masochist.

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Josh Lubens, a dating expert, writes under the pseudonym Swinggcat and has been teaching men seduction for the last decade. Visit his website to get world class seduction tips.