Women Who Step Out On Their Man – The Four Key Causes

Men have little control over whether or not their women step out on them – it’s their grasp of the state of the relationship, and not the reality, that motivates them. For whatever reason, once a woman decides that there’s something missing in your relationship, she’s stepped over the line and at that point, her man’s pretty much helpless to stop her. Even though she’s the one who’s cheating, she’ll blame it on you because she believes the flaws in the relationship are your doing.

Emotional distance, the first of these reasons, is named as the reason for many breakups. The complaint? “He doesn’t pay enough attention to me, we don’t communicate enough.” What do women want? It’s a question that’s been asked for eons, and whatever responses have been given always seem to fall short. In a relationship, a woman wants to have her sense of worth reinforced by her man. If, at the end of the day, she doesn’t feel that sense of worth, she’ll blame her man no matter what he’s really done. A woman who feels her man isn’t doing his part is a woman who’ll look for a man who’ll stay emotionally close to her.

The second reason a woman will betray her man is the feeling of neglect. This is related to the concept of emotional distance, but it’s not the same. Neglect is more behavioral in nature – for example, if a woman “wants her space” and her man takes her literally and leaves her alone, she may think he’s neglecting her because he no longer cares for her. It’s critical that men understand that a woman really does need her own space, so that she can grow as an individual and thus contribute more to the relationship, but if he leaves her alone too much, she’ll cry “neglect!” and start looking for his replacement.

Most women place great importance on their looks. Right or wrong, it’s the root of much of their self-esteem, and a man who neglects to compliment her on her beauty, especially after she’s spent much time on it, is a man who’s risking his woman stepping out on him. From her viewpoint, another man will say and do the things necessary to boost her self-esteem. While most men understand a woman’s need for self-esteem and try to reinforce it, if a woman feels she’s not getting enough attention in this area, chances are good she’s going to cheat.

Finally, a woman is likely to cheat on her man if she simply feels bored and needs a change of scene. Like a monkey swinging in the trees who won’t let go of one branch until there’s another to grab, she’s content to go about the motions of remaining in a relationship when in reality, she’s already written it off and is looking for a new man. It may be easier for her to remain in a relationship while shopping for a new man, but it’s emotionally and morally dishonest, as well as highly inconsiderate of the man’s feelings. She’ll likely find all the same old problems in her new relationship.

Regardless of the reason a woman gives for cheating on her man, the uncomfortable truth is that they probably weren’t suited to each other. The trust and respect that absolutely must exist if a relationship’s going to be successful are destroyed when the woman cheats on her man. Any woman who comes to the conclusion that she’s not getting what she needs from you, and that she’s therefore justified in cheating on you, doesn’t deserve to be with you in the first place.

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